Flourish Health & Wellbeing eMag - Nov21 - Flipbook - Page 24
HAVE A CONVO
SAVE A BRO
Helping a friend is easy when you know
how. Follow these four steps to let the
Use the ALEC model to navigate a
conversation with a man who might be
Start by mentioning anything different
you've noticed. Maybe he's spending
more time at the bar, coming into work
late, or missing social events.
Help him to focus on simple things that
might improve his wellbeing. Is he
getting enough sleep, exercising
regularly, and eating properly? Maybe
there's something that's helped before?
Suggest he tells other people he trusts
how he's feeling. This will make things
easier - for both of you. And if he's felt
low for more than two weeks, suggest he
sees his doctor.
"You've not quite seemed yourself
recently. Are you okay?"
Suggest you catch up soon - in person if
you can. If you can't manage a meet-up,
make time for a call, or drop him a
message. This will show you care. Plus,
you'll get a feel for whether he's feeling
Trust your instinct. Remember, we often
say "I'm fine" when we're not. Don't be
afraid to ask twice.
If you're worried somebody's life is in
immediate danger, go directly to
Try to give him your full attention, without
interruptions. Don't feel you have to
diagnose problems, offer solutions or
give advice. Just let him know you're all
Follow-up questions are good, too.
They'll help let him know you're listening:
"That can't be easy. How long have
you felt that way?"
Our new tool ‘Movember Conversations’
gives you the confidence to have
conversations with the men in your life
who might be struggling.