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The other person wants you all to
themselves
Someone wanting you to break off relationships with friends or family is
a possible sign that they are trying to isolate you from your loved ones in
an attempt to control and manipulate you.
You avoid saying what you need
We all have important needs in relationships. Some of the big ones are
connection, validation, appreciation, love and affection. When those
needs are mocked or ignored, it can make us feel empty, isolated, lonely
or disconnected. If your attempts to talk about what you need ends in a
fight, accusations, insecurity or jealousy, don9t ignore it.
Physical or verbal abuse. Or both
These are deal-breakers.
Passive-aggressive comments or
behaviour
Passive-aggression is an indirect attack. It is subtle and often disguised
as something else, such as anger disguised as indifference (8whatever9 or
8I9m fine9) or manipulation disguised as permission (8I9ll just stay at home
while you go out and have fun9).
Nothing gets resolved
In a toxic relationship, things don9t get worked through because many
conflicts end in an argument. This can lead to one person thinking that
the other will not have the capacity to deal with the issue in a way that is
safe and preserves the connection. When this happens, needs can get
buried, and in a relationship, unmet needs feed resentment.
"In a toxic relationship, things don’t get
worked through because many conflicts end
in an argument."